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Ellie, Six Months

By Goddess in Progress · Comments (7)·   August 25th, 2011

Half a year? Honestly? Six months, already?

Well, in truth, February 25 feels like it was about three lifetimes ago. And of that six months, she’s only been at home for three and a half, so I suppose it’s understandable that I feel a little confused as to how we got here.

But here, indeed, we are. Six months old, my sweet Ellie Bear.

Ellie at Six Months

She is really a very happy baby, very much of the time. Her smiles have gone from few and fleeting to freely shared with all. So sweet, watching her face light up when she sees me or M or Daniel or Becca. Even better, she’s really starting to laugh. Again, like smiling, I first thought I heard her chuckle about six weeks ago. But it was so brief (just a single “heh”) and so infrequent, I wasn’t even completely sure that’s what it was. But now, with a little hard work and some silly faces, you can actually draw out some real giggles. She’s also pretty talkative, sometimes a sweet “aaahhh,” sometimes a gutteral growl. But you can always tell if it’s a happy sound or a grumpy one.

Ellie at Six Months

With the help of twice-weekly physical therapy (one through the hospital and one at home through Early Intervention), she’s making really nice strides in strength and motor skills. She’s reaching and grabbing more (especially her lovey or anything fabric), holding her head much more steady, and I’ve noticed a lot more strength in her core and legs. I feel like, now, I can look at her and say “yes, she’s going to sit on her own at some point.”  It won’t be next week, but she’ll get there. For that, I am very glad.

Ellie at Six Months

She has been, all told, a very good sleeper. She’s been consistently sleeping through the night since about four months. Well, sometimes I think she’s awake, but she’s quiet and/or happy and doesn’t require anything from us to go back to sleep. So, close enough.  I’ve been playing pretty fast and loose with her daytime sleep, often getting just catnaps in the morning and then a good long nap in the afternoon. It had been working well until a few days ago, and now I think I’m starting to pay the price for the lack of morning sleep. She’s having a harder time settling for that long afternoon nap, and then totally falls apart by bedtime. Bedtime itself is, usually, pretty good. We got into the habit of doing a bath every other night instead of every night, mostly because she screamed bloody murder every time.  But now that we’ve got her nasty recurring diaper rash under control, she’s much happier in the tub. Go figure.

Ellie at Six Months

She has teeth. OH MY GOD does she have teeth. Four so far, with at least two more clearly visible that will probably be through in the next week or two. For the record, Daniel got his first tooth on his six-month birthday, and Rebecca didn’t get one for another two months after that. RI-GOD-DAMN-DICULOUS, especially for a baby who doesn’t eat.

Ellie at Six Months

Oh, right. The eating/feeding thing. It blows. The “practice” with the bottle is going absolutely nowhere. She used to sometimes try to chew on it, but now she just screws up her face and turns away. I’ll talk to our speech pathologist soon (she’s the one guiding our feeding therapy stuff) and we will probably just go for purees on a spoon in the near future, but no idea how that’ll go. In the meantime, the g-tube feeding stuff is going fine and is relatively easy and portable. But, yeah. No noticeable progress there, and the gag reflex is as bad as it ever was.

Ellie at Six Months

That said, she’s growing just fine. Well, sorta. She’s packing on the pounds like nobody’s business (15lb7oz/44th percentile at her checkup this morning), but is still pretty short (24″, which was probably generous, around the 5th percentile). We’re working with a nutritionist to gradually tweak her formula intake to try to even those two things out.

Ellie at Six Months

She has been really great this summer, tolerating a lot of being dragged around with relative ease. The time has clearly come for me to get serious about planning and respecting her naps, but all in all she has done amazingly well between the endless doctor’s appointments and following along with the big kids and their activities. While she might not be THE most easygoing baby in the world (see: stroller and carseat aversion that, while improved, is not gone), she really has been great. One of the things I’m looking forward to about the big kids going back to school is the chance to actually focus on her a little more, instead of just dragging her to gymnastics.

Ellie at Six Months

There you have it, snapshot of my little girl at half a year old. Time has alternately flown and dragged, but mostly flown. I know I’m going to blink and she’ll be a year old, and two, and four, and eighteen.  Unbelievable.

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Categories : Birthdays, Child Development, Infants, Sleep
Tags : feeding therapy, g-tube, Gross motor, low tone

Four Months

By Goddess in Progress · Comments (15)·   June 25th, 2011

Ellie is now four months old. A few more weeks and she will have been home longer than she was in the hospital. Even though it was only a month and a half ago, I still look back and can’t believe we actually were there that long. Oh well, may it drift farther and farther away in my memory…

Four months old

She is up to 13 pounds, 38th percentile for her age. Length, however, is 22.5″, which is only the 4th percentile. She’s a short little thing.

While I’d hesitate to call it a schedule, we seem to have a somewhat predictable sleep routine. Since we are generally out-and-about in the morning, she’ll take catnaps here or there. She’ll doze off in her bouncy seat or on the playmat, or sleep for a little bit while we’re in the car. After we get home for lunch, however, she’ll usually go to bed in her own room a little before her big brother and sister, and will sleep away the entire afternoon. Along the lines of 1-5PM. It’s unbelievable. And even after that marathon nap, she’s very much ready to go to bed for the night by 7. And then, believe it or not, she is pretty much sleeping 11-12 hours straight. Not every single night, and sometimes she’s awake but quiet (whatever, if it doesn’t require action from me, it totally counts as sleeping through).  But she literally went from one night being awake every hour or so, to the next night sleeping 12 hours. Unswaddled, for sure.

Ellie is NOT a fan of her carseat.  She doesn’t necessarily protest from the first moment you put her in it, and she will often fall asleep once the car starts moving. But if I dare stop to pick up my latte at the Starbucks drive-thru, I will hear her thoughts on the matter. NOT PLEASED.  My new method for running errands or hanging out at the park is to put her in the Ergo instead of bothering with the carseat and stroller. Despite the fact that it’s summer and she is a very warm, sweaty baby to begin with, the Ergo seems to be much more acceptable than the carseat.

Rocking the Ergo

She is getting a little steadier with head control, and is starting to grab and hold onto things, though not reaching for them. She’s very responsive to people, and the smiles are a little easier to come by, but no laughing yet.  We’re working on a regular bedtime routine, and she’s much happier in the bath now that I’ve gotten the temperature right (and am no longer attempting to poach her). She likes her bouncy seat, especially with the buzzing vibration turned on, but would rather not be left anywhere for too long. She is most likely to make happy sounds with her voice when first waking up from a nice long nap, or when you set her down. Once you’ve picked her up, she has less to say. She needs her space, apparently.

She is adored by both of her siblings. Rebecca always wants to help take care of her, and keeps asking when Ellie will be old enough to share a room with her.  Daniel’s level of affection never ceases to astound me. While he’s still a typical, wild four-year-old boy who needs to be a little more careful around the baby, he truly cannot get enough of her. It’s a constant stream of hugs, kisses, and a ridiculous-sounding echo of baby talk.  I could not have asked for a better reaction/transition from my big kids.

Sweet big brother

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Categories : Birthdays, Child Development, Infants, Sleep

To swaddle, or not to swaddle

By Goddess in Progress · Comments (11)·   June 5th, 2011

I just cannot figure out what this kid needs.

Ellie alternates between being a really solid sleeper and a really horrible one. Sometimes she’ll fall asleep, totally on her own, unswaddled. Sometimes she’ll sleep comfortably, for hours, all wrapped up.

Sleeping Ellie

And then, she doesn’t. The hands will flail and get so crazy, whipping her up into an overtired frenzy.  She wants her hands in her mouth, but then she’ll gag herself on them. She yanks on her ear, grabs handfuls of hair, pokes herself in the eye, and generally seems like she’s trying to claw her own face off. But then the swaddle makes her SO MAD. She can wiggle her arms out of any standard swaddle in seconds, whether pulled tight with a big muslin blanket or velcro-ed in with a sleep sack.  And even the famed uber-swaddle is a no-go. She literally spends all night furiously raging against it, and eventually manages to get an arm out.  And then the face-clawing begins anew.

M and I spend the whole night trying to find the sweet spot.  If she’s fighting the swaddle, sometimes you’ll unwrap her and she’ll pass out in under a minute.  If she’s making herself crazy with unruly arms, sometimes you can swaddle her and she calms right down.  You can do the bouncing and shushing thing from Happiest Baby on the Block and it will soothe the savage beast, or you can rock her and it’s like you’re pouring gas on the fire. And either way, 20 or 45 or 90 minutes later, she’s awake and you have to take yet another guess as to what will work this time.

It’s these things that make me feel like a rookie all over again. I’m at a loss to figure out how to get her to sleep better (we’ve got a day/night organization problem, as well). I’m forever giving people advice about sleep, but here I am, struggling like anyone else. Sure, the benefit of experience has me more likely to sit and wait to intervene, to see if she’ll settle herself instead of further revving her engine by picking her up too quickly. But still, I feel clueless much of the time. As soon as I think I might have figured out a trick, the next time it doesn’t work.

Sleeping Ellie

Some of our unique Ellie circumstances don’t help. While she’s over three months old, I’ve only had her home for four weeks. My knowledge of her cues and needs is still in the early stages.  The fact that she is fed via g-tube takes feeding and hunger out of the sleep equation in a very strange way.  Overnight, for instance, she is fed continuously at a very slow rate. So she’s neither hungry nor full, and doesn’t need to wake up to eat. But I also can’t use bottle- or breastfeeding as a soothing technique.

I know she’s too young to try to push a true nap schedule, or to do any real cry-it-out sleep training. I know I need to work on implementing a consistent bedtime routine. I can’t decide whether to limit her daytime sleep – while I’m a staunch believer in “sleep begets sleep,” sometimes she takes epic afternoon naps lasting 3-4 hours, and I wonder if that’s interfering with nighttime sleep.

Leave it to a new baby to make a know-it-all mom of twins feel like a brand-new rookie all over again.

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Categories : Infants, Sleep
Tags : Swaddling

On Jet Lag and Re-Entry

By Goddess in Progress · Comments (1)·   November 28th, 2010

Aside from surviving the flights, my other major concern about taking two three-year-olds to Hawaii was, obviously, jet lag.

While we travel quite frequently with our kids, we generally either stay in our own time zone (Florida) or go a single hour earlier (Chicago).  The only time we’ve dealt with any significant time change was our trip to California when they were only 7 months old.  Over the course of our brief four-day trip, they didn’t adjust to Pacific Time AT ALL, and we essentially started each day at about 3 or 4AM.  Charming.

With that being my only precedent, I was nervous about the 5-hour time difference between Boston and Honolulu.  No adjustment at all would have my kids awake for the day by 2:30AM.  Obviously, that would be entirely unacceptable.  Thankfully, however, 3-year-olds are a hell of a lot more adaptable than 7-month-olds.

When we arrived at our rental house, it was around 5:30PM local time, so after 10:30 Eastern Time.  My kids had been up since before 5:00AM, with only one pathetic nap between the two of them.  Daniel passed out cold on the drive from the airport, and for the second time in his life, actually transferred inside and stayed asleep. For the rest of the night.  I managed to change him out of his travel clothes and get a Pull-Up on him, and when I set him into his bed, he just rolled over and smiled.

Jet lag

Rebecca went to bed shortly thereafter, and thankfully I had thought ahead and packed our friend, the Good Nite Lite. I set it to “wake up” at 5:00AM, local time.  And while we were all awake before it turned yellow, at least it was dark out and the light was blue, and we were able to convince the kids to stay pretty quiet and rest in bed (we shared a room, alas) until it turned yellow.  We weren’t the only ones in the house up at that hour, of course, so we all took advantage of being wide awake and about 100 yards from the beach and went to watch the sunrise. (I even let M hold my camera for a minute…)

sunrise belly shot

After that, it honestly wasn’t bad at all.  Being up early, plus plenty of activity and sunshine, meant both kids took an awfully good nap nearly every day.  The nap enabled them to stay up to a normal bedtime, and I bumped the Good Nite Lite to 6:00AM for the rest of the trip.  By about 5 or 6 days in, they even slept quite a bit past when it turned yellow.  Hooray!

My pregnant and jet-lagged ass, on the other hand, was completely exhausted and crashed HARD at about 8:30 every night.  Ah well.

However, I have heard from a number of people that West-to-East is about a million times worse as far as jet lag goes, and unfortunately, that has proven true for us.

Obviously, travel day was all over the place.  Barely slept on the red-eye, “naps” were here there and everywhere the day we got home.  Both kids were exhausted and losing their minds by 6:00PM, so we put them to bed.  I think I only lasted another hour or two before I crashed, too.  Unfortunately, we were ALL awake from about 10:30PM to 1:00AM.  It was so ridiculous, we ended up putting on a TV show for the kids at midnight.

Yes, they “slept in” the next day, but then what do you do? Nap? No nap?  Plus, Daniel had picked up a nasty cold and was that much more exhausted from being sick.  And me?  Completely bone-tired.  We ended up trying a no-nap day for the kids (I may have put on a movie so I could grab a nap, myself), in the hopes of getting them tired enough for bedtime, but it didn’t work.  Another night of being wide awake at 11:00PM, though at least it wasn’t as long this time.

Add to all of that insanity the fact that we’re on a bit of a let-down from leaving a great vacation, it’s a holiday week, the kids haven’t been to preschool in over two weeks… basically, it was a nightmare of re-entry.  No routine, no schedule.  Getting them up and to school would have been hard, but at least it might have forced us back into normalcy.  What actually happened is that we didn’t get back to near-normal sleep until Saturday (got home Monday), and behavior has steadily deteriorated as they are simply bored.

I can’t tell you how excited I am for them to go back to school on Monday morning.

Could we have made the adjustment back to reality any easier? Who knows. I think my attempts at skipping the nap to get them tired enough for bedtime (the challenge of the West-to-East transition) backfired, and I would have been better off with a mid-afternoon nap and a late-ish bedtime.  And had we not been sick and had it not been a holiday week, I think making ourselves get up and go to school in the morning would have been a good thing.  But regardless, it took a solid 5-6 days to get adjusted back to our home time.

Was it worth it?  Hell yes.  The trip itself was great, and I’ll talk more about it in another post.  But re-entry has been absolutely brutal.

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Categories : Behavior, Preschoolers, Sleep, Travel
Tags : Hawai'i, jet lag

Sad and Glad and Bad

By Goddess in Progress · Comments (11)·   October 21st, 2010

I did something rather out of character today.

I deliberately skipped the nap for both kids.

I know, I know.  Pick your jaws up off the floor.  But I have come to a few very, very sad realizations.

1. My kids can handle a day without a nap.  Not every time, of course. But today, along with some other days we’ve had, they have gotten through more or less until bedtime without a complete meltdown.

2. On the days that they do nap (which is still every day for Rebecca, maybe 3-5 times a week for Daniel), it takes them much longer to fall asleep at night.  Long gone are the days of “sleep begets sleep” that I swore by in the infant days, when a better nap meant even better overnight sleep.  Nope, no more.  This has been the case for a while, but it hasn’t been problematic until recently, when the miscellaneous requests for water, backrubs, rearranged blankets, and the like, have gotten a bit out of hand. Not total chaos, but definitely prolonged stalling. There are nights when one or both of them is still awake at 9:30 or even 10, which is entirely too late, even if they are staying in their rooms. The days with no nap, however? Asleep within minutes of finishing the final song.

Tonight, I really needed them to fall asleep right away. I couldn’t risk marathon naps from either of them this afternoon.  So, instead of going home after school, we went to the mall for lunch and playing.  Came home and watched a TV show.  Hung out and played.  Rebecca briefly talked about being sleepy as we left the mall, but stayed awake in the car and seemed to catch a second wind after a little Super Why. I never spoke of napping or the skipping thereof, I just kind of pretended it wasn’t happening. I didn’t want to even introduce it as a topic of conversation.  We had an early-ish dinner, and early-ish bedtime, and that was that.  They were fine.

Sad and Glad, all at the same time.

Sad to realize that the afternoon nap is, indeed, on its way out for good.  This is a huge bummer.  While the kids did fine this afternoon, I was the one getting kind of cranky and wanting that break.  Glad, of course, because at least they were able to handle it without turning into total beasts by 4PM.

Nearing the end of an era.  Dammit.

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Categories : Behavior, Preschoolers, Sleep

I’m not sure it’s progress

By Goddess in Progress · Comments (6)·   July 1st, 2010

We had a rough morning. Daniel seemed to sleep a little better last night (after a complete meltdown at bedtime and resulting night terror about two hours later), but still woke up in a horrid mood and had two time-outs before even going downstairs. I could have told him we were having ice cream for breakfast and he would have pitched a fit.  He pulled it together for swim class, but again protested going down for nap.  Thankfully, FINALLY, he took one today. Three cheers for the new blackout shade.

Went up to get him from nap, he took a solid 2+ hours.  Walk in, strange smell. Diaper in hand.

“Daniel, why did you take off your diaper?”

“Because I had to pee.”

“Where did you pee?”

“In my bed.”

Indeed. The whole bed was completely soaked. The diaper was dry as a bone.

What could I even do? The pee was cold, the incident had passed. The morning, the week, had been so intensely frustrating and draining, I had nothing left in the tank. If I got upset about this, it was clear I was going to straight-up flip my lid, possibly burst into tears.  So I complimented him on knowing that he needed to pee, and suggested that the next time he felt that way, he could just go to the bathroom across the hall.  I mean, at least he recognized he needed to go?

Good lord.

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Categories : Behavior, Preschoolers, Sleep, Toddlers
Tags : nap strike, potty training

I’m right. Not that it matters.

By Goddess in Progress · Comments (26)·   June 28th, 2010

You could make the argument that my biggest fear about switching to beds has come true.  But, to be completely honest, the writing was on the wall for several weeks prior. I can’t blame the bed.

Daniel is trying to drop his nap.

It’s a highly intentional act, consistent in tone to other behavior/control/defiance issues we’re dealing with.  Over the course of the last week, in particular, he has become very conscious of the fact that he can control whether or not he goes to sleep at naptime.  For the first time in two and a half years, he is seriously protesting taking a nap.  “I’m not tired.” “I don’t need to sleep.” “I don’t want to take a rest.” “I’m all out of energy to sleep.” “My yawn says that it’s time to play outside.”

It’s a nap shitstorm over here.  You’ll excuse the profanity, and understand that I’m actually showing a lot of restraint right now.  Between the skipped naps, the heat and humidity, and the lack of central air conditioning, the only words I actually want to speak are of the four-letter variety.  I’m trying to hold it together in front of the kids, but with only moderate success.

Every day, I wonder how bad it’s going to be.  If he outright skips the nap, he can seem somewhat agreeable for a little while. But the truth is that he’s a ragged edge, just waiting to snag on something and completely lose it.  That nearly always happens by dinnertime.

If he messes around for an hour and a half (or two hours, OMFG), and then falls asleep, I end up having to wake him around 4:30, just so he’ll have some chance of going back to sleep at bedtime.  That is, universally, a nightmare. He’s nothing short of horrid when you wake him up. Hysterical sobbing, can’t listen to anything, pitches a fit about everything.  A bad nap is actually worse than no nap at all.

And once in what seems like a blue moon, he goes up there and falls asleep within 30-45 minutes, takes a nice two-hour nap, and is the delightful child that is hiding under the nap-beast I see most days.

When I talk to people about the difficulty we’re having, it’s amazing to me how many people leap to the conclusion that it must be time to give up the nap.  To which I would like to say, HELL TO THE MOTHERFUCKING NO. (sorry, couldn’t keep that one in.)

Yes, maybe the nap is in the beginning stages of phasing out.  It has to happen sometime.  I have had my moments where I wonder if it’s time.

But then I watch the behavior. Only on the days when he has a “normal” nap is he the happy, delightful version of himself for any extended period of time.  Yes, that sometimes means he sings for a while at night, but I’ll take it if he’s actually happy and friendly during his waking hours.  Sometimes he fools you, holding it together pretty darn well when he skips the nap.  But more often than not, it’s a disaster waiting to happen.

Today, I thought I was a shoo-in.  Took them swimming for over an hour, which is usually guaranteed to wear them out.  Plus, it’s quite hot, which always makes me more sleepy. Put them down right on time (sometimes nap gets pushed late, and though he falls asleep a little sooner, it’s the messed-up-nap shitstorm as described above).  Yeah. Daniel didn’t sleep AT ALL, and Rebecca (who often takes herself up for naptime) only slept an hour.  KILL ME.

For those who say he’s just not tired?  Guess what he did for the first time in MONTHS when we were coming back from the mall (woo, air conditioning)?  Fell asleep in the car.  And just for some added fun, peed through his shorts (screw you, potty training).

I’m not sure there’s much of a solution to this one.  I can set up rules and boundaries for that time I designate as “naptime,” but I cannot force him to go to sleep. (Apparently using tranquilizers on toddlers is “frowned upon.”)  I know that I’m right.  I know that, most days, he absolutely does need that nap.  But being right isn’t worth much at the moment. It doesn’t get us any closer to a well-rested child. Unfortunately, I think I just have to wait this one out.

In the meantime, I’m not exactly the picture of maternal patience. As all of my mom friends know, the kid not napping is a major source of stress and barrier to getting things accomplished.  When he’s up there messing around, I feel like I can’t even go upstairs.  Can’t take a shower, can’t mess around on my sewing machine. Can’t even sit downstairs and turn on the TV at an audible volume, because he insists on turning off his white noise machine.

Oof. Can a girl get a frosty beverage over here? Stat?

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Categories : Preschoolers, Sleep, Toddlers
Tags : dropping the nap, fighting the nap

When you dream

By Goddess in Progress · Comments (8)·   March 25th, 2010

I always wondered how young babies are when they start to dream. Do they always, from day one? Is it later, when they start to become more aware? Who knows.

I have long suspected Rebecca is a vivid dreamer. She’s a restless sleeper, and it’s not uncommon for her to wake in the middle of the night, seemingly distraught and in need of a pat on the back. But she’s usually still sleepy enough that she doesn’t say much about what’s bothering her and goes right back to sleep.

Daniel, on the other hand, sleeps like the dead. Sometimes, when I go in to check on them before I go to bed, I have to poke him so he’ll move enough for me to know he’s still breathing.

He woke up crying late last night, very uncharacteristic. I went in to check on him.

“Mommy, I’m so sad! I’m weawwy weawwy sad!”

“Oh, buddy, why are you sad?”

“I’m so sad, because they took all the phones!”

A hug and some vague reassurance about the phones, and back to sleep he went. As did I, with no more doubt about whether toddlers dream.

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Categories : Sleep, Toddlers
Tags : dreams, imagination, nightmares

Ode to a Nightlight

By Goddess in Progress · Comments (9)·   November 17th, 2009

I can’t really complain.  Ever since sleep training at 6.5 months, my kids have generally been very good sleepers.  A hiccup here and there, but overall solid.  Whatever combination of good luck and good habits have gotten us there, I am grateful.

Especially so that my kids tend to start the day at the incredibly reasonable hour of about 7AM.  Sometimes they wake up earlier and chat for a while, sometimes they sleep even later and don’t require my attention until nearly 8. (Insane! I know!)  The trouble is that, every now and then, Rebecca will wake up extra early (like 5:45 or 6AM).  Not only have I grown so used to the luxury of 7-7:30 that I can’t handle the sight of a 6 on the clock, but she tends to be pretty cranky if she gets up at that hour and clearly needs more sleep.  And yet, shockingly, my attempts to tell her that it’s “too early” or “not time to get up yet” have fallen on deaf ears.  Since, brilliant though my children are, they cannot yet tell time.

Enter: the Good Nite Lite.

My friend Rebecca got one first, on recommendation from someone in our twin club.  After hearing her raves, and a few extra early (and cranky) mornings, I hopped online and got one for myself.  The deal is that you set your bedtime and wake-up time on the clock.  At bedtime, the light turns on and is a blue moon.  The blue moon stays on all night.  At wake-up time, it changes to a yellow sun.  The sun stays lit for a couple of hours, and then turns itself off for the rest of the day.

Good Nite Lite

Want to know how long it took my kids to adjust to their new light?  Approximately 15 seconds. Seriously.  It arrived in the mail, I set the time and put it up in their room.  That night, I told them that the blue moon means it’s nighttime and time to sleep.  When it turns to a yellow sun, that means it’s morning.  They thought it was very cool.  And the next morning, at 7AM on the nose, the excited shrieks came from their room.  “MOMMY!  Sun is yellow mommy!  Means it’s daytime!  MOMMY! Sun is YELLOW!”

A couple of times, Rebecca woke up cranky while the moon was still blue.  I went in the room and asked her what color the light was. “Blue.”  And what does that mean? “Nighttime.”  It wasn’t an ungodly hour in the middle of the night, so I didn’t really expect her to fall back asleep.  But I offered her a book to read in her bed, and told her to tell me when the light turns yellow.  And then I walked out.  And that was that.

This is genius for toddlers and preschoolers.  It gives them a way to understand daytime and nighttime, even if sunrise is early (though we do have blackout shades in their room) and they can’t read a clock.  They have the independence to figure it out for themselves, and it removes the burden of argument.  It’s not that mommy is making me go back to bed.  It’s that the clock says it’s nighttime.  End of story.

The only down side is that the days of sleeping in (or, at least, lounging contentedly in their beds) seems to be mostly gone.  While I don’t think the yellow light is enough to wake them up if they’re asleep, I suspect much of the time they’re already quietly awake, and see the change of color, and immediately feel the need to notify me of this event.   And on the “minor annoyance” front, the light does have to be plugged in, but does not come with a long cord (just the outlet plug coming straight out of the back).  So I kind of had to jerry-rig an extension cord to hang it on a mostly un-used lamp.

But those two small complaints aside, I love this thing.  It resolved a somewhat minor but annoying issue in our sleep routine (and, as we know, better-rested kids are happier kids, and happier kids make happier moms), and removed a power struggle.  At this age, I will be grateful for small victories.

Disclosure: I was not compensated, or in any way asked, to write about this thing. I just like it, and thought you should know!

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Categories : Making life easier, Sleep, Stuff, stuff, and more stuff, Toddlers
Tags : early morning, good nite lite, wake up

Sudden departure

By Goddess in Progress · Comments (13)·   May 12th, 2009

My kids were never really pacifier junkies.  We used them when they were little, but Daniel gave his up on his own (much to my chagrin, at the time) when he was five months old.  Rebecca continued to use hers, but it was always primarily a sleep thing. Not much use during the day or out and about, and since she turned a year old, she would throw it onto the crib mattress herself when she was ready to get up.  No idea whether it was just a personality/temperament thing on her part, or something I got lucky and managed to not allow to become a huge habit, but anyways, we’re lucky.

She kept it for naps and bedtime all along, which doesn’t bother me.  The only exceptions to the “paci in the crib” rule are generally for illness or travel. Hell, the only vaguely recent picture I could find of her and the paci was when she had an ear infection in Florida.  I figured we’d ditch it eventually, but I wasn’t in a huge rush.

Not feeling so hot

Except that, when I got her up from nap this afternoon, I noticed it was busted.  Frankly, it’s amazing it lasted this long.  It’s the same WubbaNub that I got as a shower gift when I was still pregnant.  But recently I know she’s been chewing on it more, and then yanking it out of her own mouth.  So not a shock that it was almost ripped in half after nearly two years of use.

I figured I might as well seize the opportunity, rather than hunt around the house for another pacifier.  Somewhere, I think we have more of the plain green ones, though no WubbaNubs.  Nah, let’s just be done with it.  I showed her that it was broken, and told her she couldn’t put it in her mouth anymore.  I said it had to go into the trash, but she insisted she wanted to carry it (“kee-yow“) and I let her.

Goodbye Paci

She carried it around after nap for maybe 20-30 minutes, and each time I saw her start to put it in her mouth, I reminded her that it was broken and she couldn’t do that anymore.  So she kept it tucked under her arm until she agreed to my suggestion that it go in the “tash.”

Goodbye Paci

She did it herself, big girl that she is.  She did ask for it a few more times, and at bedtime when she usually gets it while she sits in the chair for stories.  But we reminded her that it was broken, and she remembered. (“Bo-ken. Tash.“)  Daniel chimed in with a few additional reminders. (“Becca paci bo-ken!“)  I left for a mom’s night out while they were still mid-stories, but M says she went down without a fuss and the monitor is possibly even quieter than usual.

Fingers crossed for a smooth night.  Another baby milestone gone.  Bye bye, pacis.  You were good friends, but your time is now passed.

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