The first in what I suspect will be an occasional series / theme over the next 6-12 months.
Let me make it clear right off the bat: I am not pregnant. I am not trying to get pregnant. Measures are taken to ensure that I do not become pregnant. But, good lord, it feels like everyone else is.
Several friends, at least six people from my mom/baby classes, people all over the blogosphere. These things come in waves, of course. There was the summer of a thousand weddings, and a few years later it was one baby shower after another. Now, of course, my kids are (very nearly) 18 months old. This, clearly, is another one of those waves. Everyone, it sometimes seems, is pregnant with the second kid.
Obviously not really the case with my twin mom friends who have similar-aged kids to mine. I think those who have twins first tend to wait longer to have additional kids, if at all. But still… it’s out there. [Like turning 40!]
And herein lies my current internal debate: more kids, or stop here? With all of the pregnancy around me, it’s hard not to be bit by the bug. And really, I am lucky and totally hit the jackpot. M and I more or less agreed that two kids was a good number, and we got the boy/girl split in one fell swoop. M is more than happy to tell friends, family, and passers-by on the street that we’re All. Done. Me? I’ve always claimed that I was not committing to the decision, one way or another.
If I do decide that I want more kids (and can convince M), I like the idea of there being roughly three years between the older kids and any new addition(s). Counting backwards, that tells me I’d like to try and make up my mind in the next six months, around the time my kids turn two.
So, I’ll be turning to you, interwebs, for some help working through my thoughts. I’ll definitely post again with more specific concerns, but I just want to start by hearing people’s overall opinions and experiences on having additional kid(s) after multiples, and on larger families in general. For those who, like me, had the two-fer right from the very beginning… have you decided to stop there? Have you decided to keep going? Why? People without multiples, how did you decide on your family size, or are you still in the throes?
I’d love to hear your initial thoughts in the comments, or feel free to write a blog post on the subject and just leave the link.
And seriously, before any of my friends and family get all worked up into a tizzy, this is nothing more than an internal debate right now. I truly don’t know which side I’m going to end up on. But it’s certainly something that’s on my mind, and I’d really like to have honest feedback.